As a gymnastics club owner and coach coach as well as a gymnastics consultant I have a great deal of experience trying to find and maintain balance and I am not just talking about on a beam. Balance between business and personal life. Balance between my “gym family” and my “home family”. Maintaining balance in my life enable me to be more fit, have better overall health and embrace a better attitude toward life. Balance helps us all feel more peaceful and at home in just about any situation.
We often forget to notice and give thanks when our body and soul are in balance. When we’re out of balance, however, we definitely notice the symptoms — having an illness or injury, feeling anger, fear or jealousy, or being burned out, unmotivated or stressed.
Here’s what you’ll have in your life when you learn to restore balance.
- You’ll wake up excited and happy for the day.
- You’ll have time for others. You’ll be in harmony with the outside environment.
- There will be less worry in your life, and you’ll feel motivated more often than not.
- There will be measurable improvement in fitness and health.
- More people will LIKE you and want to be LIKE you
- You will be more efficient at work
I know during stressful times of the season when I am out of balance but I have found things to help me restore balance and live my life better. If you want more of the good stuff, you need to pay attention to these aspects of your life that may be out of balance:
1. You would rather pull the sheets over your head than march out the door to tackle the day.
Solution: If this is your overwhelming feeling, it might be a good idea to take a break and have some down time. Rest is just as important as productivity and action. You could not drive your care across country with out giving it a rest at times and refilling the tanks. BUT we try to do that with our body/lives all the time. BE ACTIVE, then take an ACTIVE REST.
2. There is always a burning feeling of stress or anxiety that just won’t go away.
Solution: Focus on trust. If you need renewed enthusiasm for the road ahead, whether it’s a marathon race coming up or a work assignment or big competition, remind yourself of your goals and what you want to achieve. Let these be your inspiration. Trust in your ability to get it done and do it well. Write your goals down and take a look. Sometimes I see that I have goals that are in opposition to each other and I need to rethink them. My sports psychology mentor, Dr. Joe Massimo once told me, “Ink them, don’t just think them”.
3. You can hardly stand it when people want to talk with you or need your help, because you’re barely able to take care of your own life.
Solution: Take some moments to disconnect from whatever gives you the stress, and do something positive for yourself. Take a short walk, watch the sunset — anything to increase the positive “readings” on your meter. In other words, find and nurture your higher self. A random act of kindness, knowing that you unexpectedly helped someone, helps me.
I had stopped to bring in some baked goods into the gym and then was stuck in traffic on my way in. I felt myself getting so irritated and annoyed. I was getting a never ending stream of text messages from coaches who were away at a competition asking me questions that I could not answer from my car. I looked up and saw that while I was busy being annoyed with people and life, I was missing a beautiful sunrise over the bay. Traffic was at a stand still because of construction (Who decides to fix a bridge at 5:45 AM in January?) I got out of my car and handed out muffins to people also stuck in their cars around me. Their genuine thanks and surprise was what I needed to reset.
4. You don’t have time to be in nature.
Solution: It doesn’t require a lot of time in nature to restore balance to your life. Drink your morning tea or coffee outdoors. Take a walk at lunch. Go outside before bed and look at the stars. When you check in with nature and you’re aware of the seasonal changes, the temperature changes and all the transformations that are going on around you, it “resets” your equilibrium.
5. You have ongoing injuries and/or frequent illnesses that recur or don’t seem to go away.
Solution: Do a life stress reality check. What parts of your life are using up the energy you need to nurture your own health? Find fixes that energize you, whether it’s getting more rest, having more alone time, saying no to demanding people or taking on less work.
6. You feel too overwhelmed or lack the motivation to exercise.
Solution: Do what you need to do to clear your plate a little bit so there is time. Our bodies want and need to move in order to stay healthy. Everyone has 15 minutes a day — even you! Plug in to your community of support for help and motivation. Get a walking buddy, join a canoeing group or take a dance class.
Here is my #1 piece of advice. UNPLUG at night. Like many people these days I spend a good deal of time on social media. Both for work and for personal connection. When I wake up and am updating my websites, blogs etc, I am always shocked by the amount of people who are checking social media when they should be sleeping. Silly people! You can wait to look at photos of peoples cats, kids or what they had for dinner until morning!
Seeking and appreciating the balance you do have can be part of your journey in life. Consciously take note when negative thoughts aren’t present. Notice events in nature — such as the sun rising yesterday or the phase of the moon. Give yourself kudos when you’ve been consistent in your workouts, and appreciate how good you feel when you’re active. Acknowledge moments when you feel generous, and be grateful when you feel healthy.
Maintaining a balanced life is an important key to happiness and health.